Comment #23028

Blog: Weekly Update
Din65
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Din65 28 United States ENTP 14C
You need a friend right now, because even if you do find that perfect match, you are not in a position to build that relationship you crave. I've been there, and I learned that lesson the hard way by losing her, which is the only reason I am forcing you to read my advice despite repeated calls against it. It is a problem for me to see, even by random posts on the internet, someone heading towards the same mistakes I've already made. So it's not for you that I post, it's for my selfish piece of mind, so at least I can say to myself "I tried". If you don't find happiness with yourself, nothing else will last, not to mention it is harder to materialize in the first place.

Also, he is right. You need to do things you initially reject, go to social events when you don't feel like going out, and yes "fake it until you make it". There isn't another way, you are in a negative feedback loop.
Pseudolonewolf
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I already met a girl doing what I'm doing now and I was with her for more than five years. I'm not you, and our different natures and the natures of those we interact with will lead to different outcomes.
Din65
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Din65 28 United States ENTP 14C
You are not going to go from an unhealthy "you" to a healthy "us". That has everything to do with the problems being left unresolved, and is completely independent of personality types. I was initially fascinated with your site's direction to add extra dimensions with the personality profiles, but you are so dismissive of differences that you are offending me. It doesn't take a soul-mate to understand the situation you are going through, nor help you through it.

If you are so critical of other people, I can only imagine how critical you are of yourself. You don't have to stop searching for "the one", but you would gain more now from searching for happiness for yourself independent of others, and a social network so you don't feel so alone. Imperfect does not necessitate bad.