Comment #23073

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Lloyd13z
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Lloyd13z 25 United States CholericMelancholic INTJ 22C
That kind of action solves nothing. It's his choice to ignore my words, like he has in the past. But that choice doesn't fall on my shoulders, like not speaking does. I have been holding these thoughts for a long time. I've tried nicer approaches, and I've seen many many others try similar niceties. If Pseudo ignores what he labels tactful and helpful, then logically the best thing to do is try what paths remain.

I'm tired of seeing this site solely be a mirror for his thoughts, as I defined before. All the user replies have all these neutral-positive phrases that say "We can't help, but support you nonetheless." Those posts go ignored. All the negative posts, like my own, are torn down. Logically, this will remain the case until someone successfully opens people's eyes, and maybe not just Pseudo's. I'm taking a shot to that end. It doesn't exactly matter where I end up. I'm ignored if I'm silent; I'm ignored if I'm nice. Who cares if I'm ignored here?
Pseudolonewolf
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Please leave my website if you can't respect the basic requests that I've made again and again, and if you don't like that I talk about the workings of my mind and heart in the home that I built for myself on the internet.
Trying to force me to do what *you* think I should do, regardless of what *I* keep saying, is harmful, not helpful; how many times must I say that? Insensitive objectivity just makes me worse and drives me further and further towards frustration.

It especially irritates me when people speak as if they understand the full situation, when they don't.
Lloyd13z
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Lloyd13z 25 United States CholericMelancholic INTJ 22C
I will gladly leave. You claim I don't understand, which means you haven't read half of what I've said. Yet again with this treatment. You don't exactly have the right to be frustrated by a random person on the internet, when all you act like to others IS a random person on the internet.

Yes, this is YOUR website. And that's all it is. That's all you use it for. This is no better than a private blog or a school assignment website. You don't view the community here as a community, nor the people here as people. And that will be what leads people away from this site, as well as what leads you further into loneliness. Again, this "home that you built for yourself" is one of the last resources you have. I am only waiting until that vanishes too, and the reason will solely be your own misuse of it.

And for the record? You are the one who doesn't understand me. I never said I minded you talking about "the workings of your mind and heart." In fact, I enjoyed reading those, and attempted to help in every place I could (and that you let me). I also very clearly said I'm not trying to force you into anything. I only wanted you to see people here for who we are. And I can't even get that out of you. But of course, that was my point all along. You stopped viewing me as an intelligent person (if you ever did) and instead generalized my thoughts and actions into something against you. Thank you for that.

So yes, I'll take my leave. And I sincerely hope no one else follows suit.
The Crimson Sun
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Are you actually trying to help Pseudo? Because the bottom line is, the approach you are taking does nothing to achieve that aim. It only causes further harm, which should be something you are trying to avoid.

I do want to help Pseudo. If circumstances had been different, I'd like to think that we could have been friends. But as it happens, we live on opposite sides of the world, and I'm in no position to provide the kind of support or friendship he truly needs right now. All I can do is try to protect him from people like you, who can't seem to understand that their 'grand solution' isn't a one-size-fits-all deal.

And I'm sorry if this seems condescending, Pseudo. I'm not trying to paint you as a defenceless child, I'm just getting this off my chest. Anyway...
Lloyd13z
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Lloyd13z 25 United States CholericMelancholic INTJ 22C
I have been asked to leave, but I'll gladly respond. You ignored my point: What do you do when you keep trying a method and it continues to fail? Do you continue a failed method, each time hoping the result is MASSIVELY different? That's a definition of insanity. And the only outcome is pushing oneself further and further down.

So why continue to be all "Oh, I still support you Pseudo and I hope things go well!" and "I wish I could be the friend you need" which obviously hasn't changed anything? Yes, Pseudo has said being harsh isn't the right thing to do. But is being kind right either? It's NOT working. Look around, there's proof of that everywhere. You have two years of blog posts to see that. Kindness goes ignored and unappreciated. And it's not anyone's fault that it's not working. The reason is because Pseudo doesn't respect the kind words, and he hates the harsh ones. There's plenty of proof of that too, see the links I gave him earlier. So what's left for those who want to help, hm?

I'm not asking him to do anything out of the ordinary. You're misreading me because you are yet another person who will defend Pseudo until he destroys himself. You're right, it's not a grand solution. It's not a one-size-fits-all thing. But would you agree that the people who use this site use it to revolve around Pseudo? If you do, then you agree that Pseudo has a community around him. And you should be able to see how he treats that community is terrible, and it could be better. Which is why my "solution" could work for him. For him and him alone - not many are in the situation he has here.

Again, I'm not asking for a miracle. I'm not trying to get him to change. Just to realize that there are PEOPLE here. Other HUMANS who he has the ability to connect with. And by "has the ability," I've already said the foundation is there. People respect him here. If he gave them a tiny bit of time, he could make connections here. Not friends, I know that. Again, I understand him better than you give me credit. But he could make connections with other humans, and use those to entertain his mind and thoughts. Help break him away from his isolation in real life. This site could be a stepping stone, a tool used for his benefit... and yet all I see him doing is using it to vent and neglect, never to interact.

And lastly, before you say that there were nicer ways to say this, believe me I have tried. That lack of respect for kind words? I have approached Pseudo MANY times. I can't emphasize that enough. This comment chain is literally the first time he has given a response. Errors on the site, questions about the games, all the way to more serious stuff... NEVER have I gotten a response. And have any of you seen progress down a path you have "suggested nicely?" Because I haven't seen him take any steps that weren't decided by him, for him. Again I have to ask - what is left for those who want to help him?

Since I've been ignored and told to leave, I will. I apologize that I likely won't see or respond to further conversation, but I do hope I have raised awareness of an issue. Obviously not to Pseudo himself, but maybe I can give thoughts that others can work with, and maybe my actions will affect those Pseudo WILL listen to, in time. That's my last hope, small as it may be.
The Crimson Sun
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'What do you do when you keep trying a method and it continues to fail? Do you continue a failed method, each time hoping the result is MASSIVELY different? That's a definition of insanity.'

This is either irony or hypocrisy or both, because that's exactly what you are doing here. You've been told numerous times that your actions are achieving nothing besides harming Pseudo further, and yet you persist with them.

Seeing as you may not read this I'll just leave it there. But I'm sorry that you feel the need to leave when all you really have to do is accept that this latest attempt to help doesn't work either.