Comment #23092

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tomechard
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I can sympathize with that. I have a hard time trusting anyone. I nit-pick a lot, and then lose many people who try to befriend me. It's hard to let people in.
Pseudolonewolf
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In my case, it's not even necessarily trust as such; I'll spill my heart out to strangers on this website, so I don't worry about telling people things at all... Rather, I'm more concerned about not seeing eye to eye with people, and either being forced into something I don't like, criticised for my preferences and views, or argued with... I hate conflict and I couldn't feel close to someone who I disagreed with about significant things...
Heiveldboy
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But does that also mean you and your significant other won't have fights or discussions? I mean, isn't it necessary for a healthy relationship to disagree with your significant other on various subjects and as a result yell at each other out of sheer anger ( or discuss things in a perhaps hostile manner)?

I'm asking this because I've seen a decent amount of couples arguing with one another about various things to the point where I was wondering how they ever became a couple to begin with, but when I asked why they stayed together I only heard positive things and that the fighting was part of a relationship.
Mania
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I'm totally going to break the pattern of Pseudo-random member-Pseudo-random member-Pseudo replying, mwhahahaha.

But anyway, I don't see why such a thing would be required in a healthy relationship at all. In fact, it sounds more like it's detrimental to a healthy relationship, rather than a requirement...

In fact, if those arguments go too far, it probably could be a sign that the relationship is not healthy and just doesn't work, especially if one of the partners is averse to conflict. [Although I wouldn't say a relationship that has disagreements is necessarily unhealthy, but certainly not the mark of a healthy one]

I guess some people do value conflict and such in a relationship, for some reason, mabe that's why they think it's part of a relationship. [Because every relationship should be like theirs, for some reason? A bit arrogant, to think that their relationship should be the template for a healthy one. Or maybe it's because couples always either are bickersome and happy, or very fakely and unealtily lovey-dovey on TV?!] But it is really quite obvious that A β Pseudolonewolf isn't that sort of person at all, nor would the person he'd want to be with. o.o

I know that my sister and her best friend never have any hostile disagreements and they're extremely close... I don't see why a romantic relationship would require it either.
Heiveldboy
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Well, I never stated that a relationship HAS TO HAVE YELLING and FIGHTING and KILLING!!!!
But I'm wondering how he'll react if he and his significant other were to have a conflict. I don't have any experience with all that, but judging from what I've seen couples argue once in a while and Pseudo says he dislikes conflicts and etc.
Also, I'm not asking how he'll react to conflicts that go too far, but rather to normal disagreements and etc that do could invoke some anger, frustration and etc.

Hmm, I don't know why relationships must have conflicts or such. I guess it's because I was raised in an environment that values such a thing?

So let's summarize this whole wish-wash of text: I'm not saying that Pseudo SHOULD have conflicts or disagreements with his significant other, I'm wondering how he'll act if it were to happen.

Also, I'm a random member?!?!?! That's so hurtful! ;.;